Healing from Grief and Loss : A Practical Guide
Let’s Get Real
Grief isn’t just about death.
It’s about change you didn’t choose.
It’s your mind and body trying to make sense of a world that no longer looks the same.
Grief doesn’t mean you’re weak.
It means you cared deeply.
It’s the emotional cost of love, identity, and belief.
What Really Causes Grief?
Grief isn’t limited to funerals and farewells.
It shows up after any identity-shifting loss:
- A job you gave your all to
- A relationship that shaped who you were
- A dream you were building
- A version of yourself you had to let go
Grief = Your nervous system saying, “This mattered.”
At the root, it’s your brain whispering:
“This change wasn’t my choice—and I need time to find solid ground again.”
When Does Grief Show Up?
- Immediately — like a wave crashing over you
- Quietly — disguised as fatigue, numbness, or irritation
- Unexpectedly — even when you think you’ve “moved on”
Grief doesn’t follow a timeline.
It’s not linear.
It’s cyclical.
It loops—until it’s fully felt, witnessed, and integrated.
What Keeps You Stuck in Grief?
- Avoiding the emotion
- Forcing closure too soon
- Trying to “bounce back” before breaking down
- Toxic positivity: “At least you still have…”
- Over-functioning: Using productivity to mask pain
You can’t outwork grief.
You can only move through it.
How to Heal: 6 Practical Tools for Grief Recovery
1. Name the Exact Loss
Not just “I lost my job.”
But:
“I lost the version of myself that felt confident and valuable because of that role.”
Naming the emotional truth accelerates healing.
2. Write the Unfinished Story
Ask:
- What didn’t get to happen?
- What was I still hoping for?
Let your grief speak the unsaid.
Unspoken grief doesn’t disappear—it becomes stored pain.
3. Let Your Body Grieve Too
Grief isn’t just mental. It’s stored in the body.
Let it release through:
- Gentle breathwork focused on release, not control
- Cold exposure (a quick rinse or splash) to reset the nervous system
- Freeform movement—walk, dance, stretch. No rules. Just presence.
You can’t think your way out of a feeling.
You must feel your way through it.
4. Set a Grief Ritual
Create a safe, daily space—just 15 minutes—to:
- Reflect
- Cry
- Walk with a memory
- Journal your feelings
When grief is given a container, it doesn’t spill everywhere else.
5. Build a Future Anchor
Ask yourself:
“What could make life feel meaningful again—even if it’s different?”
You’re not rebuilding the past.
You’re creating a new normal that honors what was lost.
6. Talk to the Version of You That’s Hurting
Yes, out loud.
Ask:
“What do you need right now?”
“What are you most afraid of?”
This simple act creates distance between you and your pain.
It helps you lead yourself forward—without dismissing what hurts.
What Grief Is Secretly Teaching You
- That you loved and cared deeply. That’s strength.
- That your identity was tied to something external. Now’s your chance to rebuild from within.
- That loss strips illusions and brings brutal clarity about what truly matters.
Grief doesn’t just break you.
It also opens you—to truth, to power, to reinvention.
A Real-Life Reset: Rohit’s Story
Rohit, an Operations Manager, was forced out after a merger.
He didn’t just lose a paycheck. He lost his identity.
At first, he spiraled—feeling lost, ashamed, angry.
Then one morning, he wrote a LinkedIn Post—not about his situation, but to his past self.
He wrote:
- What that role meant
- What he was grieving
- What he was ready to release
That act of honesty became a turning point.
Today, Rohit runs his own consultancy—aligned with his values and purpose.
“Grief taught me who I am without the title,” he says.
And that clarity? It changed everything.
Reflection Questions
- What version of me am I grieving right now?
- What truth did this loss reveal?
- What would healing look like—if I designed it my way?
Grief Isn’t a Problem. It’s a Process.
You don’t get over grief.
You grow through it.
With presence.
With honesty.
With deliberate action.
Grief is not the end.
It’s a doorway—to healing, to reinvention, to truth.
At IntuiWell, We Help You Heal What You’ve Been Hiding
If you’ve been powering through pain silently, maybe it’s time to pause—with intention.
At IntuiWell, we don’t just help you move forward.
We help you rebuild—from the root.
Book a Free Clarity Call. Let’s start your healing—on your terms.
